“What is NEED and what is WANT?…”

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NEED: Honestly speaking we need health and to be valued because we live! On an emotional level we need love and touch and peace. On a practical level we need a roof over our head and friends and food and laughter.

WANT: The want segment of our essence I’ve come to know is the longer road with its curves and accidents meant to awaken us from the sleep of non-awareness.

I’ve traveled many roads and looking back realized I missed the signs warning me to turn around—trouble ahead!

But today I see it this way: The two-lane road we each negotiate is both Need and Want. Then again we can only traverse one road at a time in quest of fuel for our essence. So where might we find this fuel I speak of? Perhaps at “The Awareness Pump” of the choice we are just about to make.

“Empathy or Understanding…”

willow for blogTo have empathy or to know understanding is The Question; well at least in my mind. Empathy typically hangs out with sympathy and compassion. Understanding has many more descriptors like perceptive, tolerant, aware, and discernment to name just a few. Discernment is an old-fashioned word meaning judgment and sensitivity and insightfulness; to also name a few.

Let us visit UNDERSTANDING: It expands when the hard knocks of life capture our attention. Some learn from the difficulties; whether they name it empathy or not. Others excuse their lack of empathy for themselves or others as a tool to deny their wounds.

Let us visit EMPATHY:  Is IT innate or do we gather it along life’s pathways? How might sympathy and compassion change things for the better? Must we allow it or are we required to call it up at moments of deep sorrow or understanding?

Ah… there is the rub! {Shakespeare’s Hamlet: By rub Hamlet means difficulty or obstacle.) 

“And, The Rivers Flow…”

 

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Along the rivers of life is a universal yearning to flow with the tides that Mother Earth endowed   to the Zambezi River—the fourth-longest in Africa and the largest flowing into the Indian Ocean from Africa. Maybe this will help: The Zambezi’s most celebrated feature: Victoria Falls (below).

Elephants walking in a channel of the Zambezi River, Zambia

Why choose the Zambezi for this blog? That’s easy: because it demonstrates how the animals and human cultures sustained by it, live together the ebb and flow that is the rhythm of life. Nature is a great storyteller of collaboration that nourishes our future.Victoria Falls

Now, more than 7 billion of us are torn by disorder and uncertainty and bewilderment. Our world is changing and none know its outcome. Well, maybe trusting that when the rains come and the Zambezi overflows her banks and humankind and animal alike head to a higher ground, we too head there!

“Humankind’s Soul Life…”

Soul is a word that reaches beyond humankind’s ability to describe. It may be religious or soulful or spiritual or… We cope with the soul word by categorizing it and arguing about “It’s” intent. Below are two quotes by Thinkers of Time who added soil and water to my soul and it grew. albert-einstein-25-download

       Albert Einstein 

“No problem can be solved from the same consciousness that created it. We must learn to see the world anew.”

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“We are a way for the universe to know itself. Some part of our being knows this is where we came from. We long to return. And we can, because the cosmos is also within us.”

These two thoughts show evidence of a limitless soul life—yours and mine. 

“I’ve Got Your Back…”

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First, I ask this question: “DO WE?”

I studied, for a bit, to find the origin of this truism: “I’ve got your back!” There were both opposite and parallel explanations but no source swore as to the timing or reason or intent of this particular saying. There were military implications and a kind of promise implied; but really no absolute to quantify “I’ve got your back.”

This cultural truism is now on T-Shirts and proclaimed as easily as “What’s Up?” Well, actually that also may be outdated.   

My point is as humanity begins to question, well anything, we begin to look over our shoulders to consider who might actually have our back—an uneasiness that requires us to close ranks with those proven to have our backs.

When humanity is forced to change, so is all that is connected to them. Example: The voices of governments who repeatedly proclaim: “We’ve got your back.” Maybe they’re unaware the slogan is only on T-Shirts these days.

“Education…The Tree of Life”

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Education is a word that includes teaching, learning, tutoring, edification and culture. There are so many ways to instruct: Fear; Dialect; Cruelty; Respect; Intolerance; Lenience; Schooling; Life, and Self-Taught.

Why should we Humankind care more for who and how we educate than for sports or killing or social media or dominance or hatred? It seems obvious, but is it? Obvious is a word that means observable; so are we observing the demise of the import for an educated society?

The Teaching I speak of ranges from the family elders to the formal educators and the Students I speak of seem unmindful of the need to absorb knowledge in all its forms. Yet some, like last evening, graduated with General Educational Diplomas (GED). Their individual stories were compelling and each shared a singular trait: A declared worth for their pursuit of knowledge.    

To be Watchful of Education is Humankind’s Contribution to One Another.

“STORY ITSELF…”

Janet's logo textStory is a word that means chronicle, narrative, legend, fable etc. But Story Itself, well that’s different. How do I know? My clients taught me. What my clients continue to teach is that each voice is a powerful tool. And, that each human being has a unique memory voice that does not change over time. It just rests in the ether of silence; that is, unless someone inquires.

The ITSELF cadence of a STORY looks something like this…

  • At the beginning of an interview client voices are quiet, unsure and falter between thoughts. But once they trust their individual cadence they never waiver.
  • The pace of how a client breathes between words discloses their unique speaking voice.
  • The easiest disclosures are about what they love, who they love and why they love.
  • How they love is revealed in a pause between words or a subtle deep breath.
  • I feel their disappointments that rest in the tone of their voice and the pace of their telling.
  • Their choice of word informs me that they are happy, afraid, joyous or sorrowful.
  • When quieting their speaking voice they are about to reveal a secret.
  • To laugh aloud at their own words means they just learned something about themselves.
  • Regrets are never given freely; but, a long-held breath or a deep sigh says it all.
  • Hope, on the other hand, is expressed fully and genuinely.
  • I’ve learned to listen closely to inflections and word choice. These reveal intention.
  • During transcription there are deep sighs, long pauses and even dead space. Sometimes I can garner a meaning; but most often the space is for their remembering. 
  • All clients say: “…my life was just so ordinary.” But, their intonation in speaking these words begins, maybe for the first time ever, to cause them to wonder what ordinary really means.

“Our Scars are…”

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I was nine when it happened. It was a day like any summer’s day—outside playing with my doll of many years. I named her that because every Christmas Eve my parents bathed her and gently combed her ringlets then slipped on a new dress my mother sewed in secret. But this Christmas—back again in her original doll box—was also a set of white, petite doll skates.

But back to that summer’s day: Doll in hand, I headed to the two forts my brother’s had constructed opposite one another in the alleyway. It had never before been a danger zone so I stepped in the middle to—yet again—show off my doll’s skates. WHISH! A tin can flew by and a second followed quickly from the opposite fort. The first missed! The second—filled with small rocks and soil—hit square atop my head. I SCREAMED as the blood gushed out and threw my doll aside to save her.

Mother, her dishtowel in hand, came screaming toward me and tried to stop the spewing blood; to no avail. Dad and car were at work—Mother didn’t drive anyway—but she did add a large towel to my gusher and kept her hand hard  atop my head as we walked the eight blocks to the doctor who immediately clamped the skin tightly together. The scar: well it’s still there.

On that day my brothers and parents and sizeable family gathered to both see my scar and help me heal from it. Ah, but the scars added since—those they cannot see—are mine alone to heal. It would sure be nice to have my doll of many years to lend a hand.

“Evolve or Shape-Shift Through Life…”

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Evolve is a word that means to make progress or go forward or change. Humankind—dare I imply Mother Earth herself—has endowed humanity with Earth Pathways we are free to follow or to take no notice of. But, as usual, danger and/or reward are always just around that next change in direction.

As I write this I’m remembering the Earth Pathways that shaped my humankind progress. Many evolved over time; the pathways were a climb; a bit bumpy, yet ultimately smoothed out. Others, well others were shape-shifted without my permission; even life-threatening. So, how might my experiences help you?

Well—first and foremost—at all times when stepping onto Earth’s Pathways be fully aware of your intention for doing so. Yet, intention is never absolutely alone on whatever pathway we ultimately choose. That unseen shape-shifter—devoid of our vigilance—obscures the light that is our invitation to try again.

“Heartbreak is a Legacy or Perhaps…”

Janet's logo textA long time ago I was told, compassionately, that sometimes heartbreak will live within us for a lifetime. I accept this premise, yet when heartbreak becomes legacy, well that’s a horse of a different color.

Our first heartbreak is as we leave the caretaking of a mother’s womb and progresses from there: but the form it takes differs for each of us. Therefore, if heartbreak is truly a given why should we care about IT?

We should care because when heartbreak rules our persona—and doesn’t just stand as a lesson learned—we become THE HEARBREAK and that legacy keeps us from living a perhaps life. Perhaps had this or that heartbreak not made me—go ahead, list your justifications here.   

Heartbreak is both adversary and ally and we ought to choose how or if it presides over life.